If you want something you've never had
Maybe you're trying to get a new job.
Maybe you're trying to land that new client.
Maybe you're trying to get that woman's attention.
But yet, you're not getting anywhere.
Doing the same old thing is going to get us the same old results.
If you want something you haven't had before, you have to be willing to do things you aren't used to doing.
Get honest with yourself and understand what went well and what didn't go well.
Maybe, it's time to follow up with that employer via email an hour after the interview (timing is everything). Send a personalized thank you card to their headquarters (addressed to the interviewer) thanking them for the opportunity and excited for the next step.
Maybe, reach out to the prospect but *don't* talk about business. Perhaps the prospect is from New York and you're planning a trip there this fall. Talk about how much you've wanted to see a Broadway play and if he/she can recommend any good shows. This is a discreet way to stay on top of the prospects' mind as well as build rapport and trust so that they will want to do business in the future. Most people love talking about their hometowns, it's sentimental to them.
Maybe, send the woman you're trying to go out with some flowers to her job randomly one day. Sure we don't know what her favorite flower is, or if she even likes flowers for that matter. But the point is it's a nice gesture and she is going to remember it. Chances are you probably aren't the only one that's trying to get her attention so it's time to do something different and stand out.
The smallest tweak can make the biggest difference.
Don't give up and don't lose hope. I challenge you to go outside your comfort zone and do something different today.
If you want something you've never had, you have to do the things you've never done.